Tuesday, July 28, 2009

New life for Julia is not an easy transition. Had to go back to the orphanage and speak to the director and Dr for some medicine for her, fortunatly they saw her in an extreme state of irritability, aggression, self injury, screaming, destructive, crying, head banging why I felt she would need "something"as she was on meds before while there. The Dr got a script filled, and it's a strong psych med, and a sedative for the train and plane. Juliia is very good at the flop and drop to the ground, and have a tantrum. I was out with her on the corner of the street, right outsie ofhe great the apt driveway, Julia has a fit, hits the ground, screaming. some woman in her 60's approaches me, "mama, no, point to Julia, while waving her finger at me! I was in no mood after battling with Julia, and did what my mom did to us when little, gritted my teeth, squinted my eyes, and yelled at her, DA, is yes in Russian and waved my finger at her, she looked a little scared, said to her "English" "no", so I just said out loud, than mind your own damn business. She took off pretty quick. How obnoxious is that? After that I ran into the nice elderly man that lives in this apt bldg, he always had a smile for us, even when Frank and the kids were here. knowa we don't speak Russian.. He saw me, must see Julia in extreme freak out mode, doing the flop and drop. He always says hello in Russian to me, andsmiles. Today he said "mama, pointed to Julia, and did the "amen"sign, and pointed at me. I knew he meant "God Bless you" and your patience, smiled and went on his way. That made me feel better. Julia did great today in the stroller, there's a bar across the front, she can hold on to it, and cen't do a houdini with loose joints to get to the belt, don't think she knows how to unbuckle. We walked out for about 30 mins before our ride came. So nice to have her in that, my back is getting tired of carrying her, just to get to point A to point B. No screaming, which mde life easier. I have all ready contacted our sons Psych at Childrens-Boston for an appt or Julia, as he has agreed to have her as a patient. The great news is...we are going home on friday, leave at 355pm from Kiev to London, London to Boston. Should land about 9:30-9:45 in boston. God bless the USA!
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9 comments:

  1. hang in there Mama. this is a tough time for both of you. hugs. Sending good wishes and loads of love to you guys!

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  2. UGH! Why in the world didn't they send her with meds??? Psychiatric meds can't just be stopped, as the body goes into horrible withdrawals. They need to be weaned over the course of several WEEKS. (depending upon what she's on. If she's on more than one drug, you only wean one drug at a time. This from a mom who's child is on several psychiatric meds.)

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  3. Oops, I just finished reading the end of your post, and see you might have some experience with the psych meds. Sorry about that!

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  4. oh my! You will be home soon! Thank goodness... Poor darling is probably so confused, but thankfully now is being greatly loved!

    Prayers for safety and speed!

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  5. I feel real confident that alot of that will improve once she is home and settled. I will be thinking of you arriving to Logan on Friday. Big hug and prayers Katie.

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  6. Hi

    Without actually seeing the fit I can say that when we adopted our daughter aged 2 would throw a fit for 6 or 7 hours at a time. No psych issues - in the orphanage she had never learnt how to self soothe and as she started attaching to us and got attention she would lose it but did not know how to recover herself. In the orphanage the kids dont usually lose it as no one picks them up or pays any attention. I like to think of it like opening up a fire hydrant and then not knowing how to close it.

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  7. Prayers for both of you. Glad you will be going home soon!

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  8. Hugs and prayers to you! I am so glad you will come home soon!
    So how long did you end up being there?

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  9. Katie, I was so excited when I saw your comment on my blog. Lena and I will be following your beautiful daughter and family as you transition home. We enjoyed meeting both of you and have a special connection with you. Hope things are settling in for you now. There is no place like home. We got back two days ago and I am still doing jet lag and tying to transition back in. Give our little sweetie a hug from Lena and Rhonda.

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